The Only Consistent Thing

Everybody burns sometime. Not everyone rises up from the ash. This has been on my mind lately, burning and rising and burning again. Like a perpetual cycle of awakening. I have been thinking “if only I burn away and let go/forgive/surrender this LAST time… then I’ll be done (and enlightened!). But truly, I’m starting to […]

The Mindful Path through Worry and Rumination


I’ve been reading this book: The Mindful Path through Worry and Rumination by Sameet Kumar, Ph.D. and I have to say it has been one of the most helpful reads in terms of dealing with the (sometimes overwhelming) anxiety that (more often than I’d like to admit) can take me out of loving myself (and […]

On Securing Dates with Women: A Brief How To


  I’ve had a few clients who come in lately, they get all cozy, we start talking and at some point they ask the question, “Why don’t women respond when I ask them out?” The men elaborated: they’d met a super lady, really enjoyed her company, set up a tentative meeting, but when push came […]

You’re Too Guarded (and the power of staying present)

I call this one "Contemplation"

I’m about ten days into a 108 day yoga program where I’ve twisted around like I didn’t know I could, muscles burning, breathing like a war horse and the instructor will comment, “now, take a deep inhale, expand your breath and just notice how you feel.” At those particular moments, it is typical for me to […]

Navigating Crisis and Staying True to You


I hate crisis. Scratch that. I loathe crisis, much like I loathe those gross blue nose suckers for babies. Have you seen those? You stick it up a babies nostril and schuuullpp – it sucks out the boogies. I involuntarily gag every time. That kind of loathing. I live in Boulder, Colorado, and in case you haven’t […]

2 Steps to Find Meaning


I’ve been having an existential crisis lately. In a good way. In a way like I am feeling complete with where I have been but am not totally sure where I am going next. I’m in the space between. This is usually an uncomfortable place for me (I have to have a plan!), but this […]

Becoming a Great Man: using clarity and awareness

man and his horse

:: Trigger Warning :: This article contains material that may be triggering to people who have experience with sexual assault, violence, abuse, PTSD and depression. If that’s the case for you, skip to the informative bits by clicking HERE :: Time to Read: 4-6 minutes ::   ::: ::: ::: ::: ::: ::: ::: ::: :::  Sometimes I […]

Feeling Trapped? How to Break Free Like a Man

Don't Get Too Close!

I stood in the back country of the Colorado Mountains and watched the wild river turn at every edge and back again, snaking her way across the valley like a silver ribbon. The river had no agenda, no schedule, no need of constraints, save the mountains that held her on either side. She tumbled off […]

How to Instantly Boost Your Self Esteem with One Powerful Strategy

How to Instantly Boost Your Self Esteem with One Powerful Strategy 1

  Men of today grow up with unfortunate, self-esteem degrading messages. Our media culture slaps humor on top of it in sitcoms or dresses it up in passionate looking cologne ads, but the underlying meaning is the same: who you are as a man is dangerous, perverted and not enough. The breakdown that is happening […]

I am Grateful For You: A Father’s Day Message for All Men

Christin and Dad Pic

  I don’t know what your Father’s Day is like. I don’t know if you have a relationship with your father, if you’re a dad, or a single dude looking for love. What I know is that on this day of gratitude for fathers and father figures, I feel an immense and profound gratitude for […]