Helping Good Guys be Better Men
I get really triggered on Mother’s Day. Every year it comes around and every year I panic and get nervous and worked up. Any day of the year that wasn’t about him and actively celebrated someone else was usually difficult (even if that someone else was baby Jesus or a dead turkey). So this might [...]
We have an interesting relationship to pain in our culture. We treat it as a leper or something we do not wish for others to see or know about us. We think that pain makes us weak, and it is a nuisance. But what if pain was our friend? I read an excellent book when [...]
First of all, what’s a check in? A check in means I tell you what’s up for me and how I feel about it, it’s sort of a free flowing description of current status and location (emotionally, spiritually and physically). It felt fake to me this week to give ‘3 tips for X!’ or ‘7 [...]
There is a Buddhist saying: “Suffering is discomfort multiplied by resistance.” The good news about my busted foot is that I’ve had nothing to distract me – I have to lie on the couch and feel whatever I’m feeling. The bad news is – I have nothing to distract me and have to feel whatever [...]
I believe the body has messages for us, it let’s us know when we’re pushing too hard or when we need a break. The body steps in and says something like, “Oh, wonderful, you worked 18 days in a row again. Well, I’m going to make you sick so you can calm the hell down.” [...]
Crawling out of the hole is much like falling into it. It’s like the tides that go in and out, they never really reach a line and stay there. There is an ebb and flow. I find myself more aware this week, more aware and less incapacitated. I’m starting to think of this whole thing as [...]
This blog is going to be messy and, I’m afraid, that’s just what it is this week. I’m writing from my heart, speaking into the space from the void and just letting it be. Like the song, let it be. There is a hole in my heart that I’m crawling out of today. It’s sort [...]
It’s one of those times of year again. I’m noticing a serious pattern in the seasonal cycles. I only say it’s serious because it throws me off and, even though I had planned for this one, marked off ten days in my calendar that were ‘not to be disturbed’ it’s like it snuck up on [...]
I’ve been reading a book called Iron John. While the content is fascinating (and I totally recommend checking it out) what has interested me more is the fable that is the book’s name’s sake. Iron John is a mythical character who represents our inner wildness and the moral of the story is that our inner [...]
Did you know I’m writing a book? I’ve been writing it for over two years now. I start, I stop, I re-write, I edit, and I begin again. I let it sit for about six months without even looking at it after I finished my first draft. I can’t seem to bring myself to fully [...]