Helping Good Guys be Better Men
On the day that I got married, my husband and I had a ceremony in the forest before we married in front of our community. It was important to both of us that we make our bond as our true Essence Selves and we didn’t think we could do that authentically in front of other [...]
We have an interesting relationship to pain in our culture. We treat it as a leper or something we do not wish for others to see or know about us. We think that pain makes us weak, and it is a nuisance. But what if pain was our friend? I read an excellent book when [...]
First of all, what’s a check in? A check in means I tell you what’s up for me and how I feel about it, it’s sort of a free flowing description of current status and location (emotionally, spiritually and physically). It felt fake to me this week to give ‘3 tips for X!’ or ‘7 [...]
There is a Buddhist saying: “Suffering is discomfort multiplied by resistance.” The good news about my busted foot is that I’ve had nothing to distract me – I have to lie on the couch and feel whatever I’m feeling. The bad news is – I have nothing to distract me and have to feel whatever [...]
Crawling out of the hole is much like falling into it. It’s like the tides that go in and out, they never really reach a line and stay there. There is an ebb and flow. I find myself more aware this week, more aware and less incapacitated. I’m starting to think of this whole thing as [...]
If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a million times: The single most important thing you can do for your life and your relationship with women is to stay in this present moment with your whole Self. This first foundation of Self and who you really are explains that by increasing your presence [...]
In the work that I do, it is an incredible honor to witness countless men as they rediscover themselves, their true nature, and the unique gifts they have to offer to the world. There is something special about being witnessed in this way and something powerful about comprehending that you have a unique gift that [...]
There is a special quietness on the first days of the year. The snow is soft and fluffy and even the birds seem to be snuggled away in their nests, enjoying the calm. Around this time of year, it is natural to reflect on the past twelve months. To think about goals we have [...]
“You should sit your own hot seat,” she said, “feel what it’s like up there. See what you give these men.” I thought it was a bit crazy at first. I bring in hot seat ladies for the men in my groups to practice on, to grow their depth of connection and get feedback [...]
During my Immersion Course last weekend we completed this exercise after a particularly intense group session. The instruction was not to talk, follow the instructions and return to the group when the thirty minutes were up. When the group returned, I was baffled by their clarity and lightness of being. We had just gone [...]
