My husband’s wedding ring is black. He’s left it in on the table in my office so he doesn’t loose it while he’s out for his bike ride. It is heavy and dark against the white top of my desk and I keep twirling it and twirling it in my hands.
Do you want to know a secret?
Every night when we go to sleep, I put my hand on his chest. I move my fingers around until I feel the strong beat of his heart beneath my palm and I breathe a little deeper. I thank the Great Spirit that guides and connects us; I give thanks for this partner, for this love, and for this life.
His heart beat serves as a reminder to me that I am lucky to have such a man.
As I twirl his ring in my hands, my thoughts go back to our wedding day, to all the people that made it possible. To the guests that traveled across the country just to be with us, to my in-laws who created the most magical scenery I could ever have imagined, to my aunt who officiated our ceremony bringing in the depths of the earth and universe to watch over us.
My mind wanders to my family, my step-mother, my parents, how far we’ve all had to come to share in this special day. How lucky I am to have such remarkable and generous souls in my family.
Most of all, in the quiet of this season I feel immense gratitude – for the people who love us and without whom Stephen and I wouldn’t be here today. Our family, our friends, our mentors, the people who helped us become who we are. We would never have made it without their love.
So, when I feel his heart beating just before sleep, I think of all these people in our lives, and I say a prayer of thanks – that they have given us a life that was more than we ever dared hope for.
I feel his heart – and I feel all those who have come before us beating in his blood.
And I feel safe in the knowing that we are loved – and I feel humble that I have more than I could ever want.
How DO you Get What You Want?
Something profound happens in the world around us when we have gratitude. When we focus on what we do have – we get more.
Do you know why?
Where your attention goes, your thoughts and actions follow.
Your attention (especially as a man) is a very powerful tool in your path for deeper connection with your Self and with women. Attention and single focus is natural to you and you are hard wired for paying attention deeply to some one or something.
The benefit is that you don’t have to do anything different! You simply have to use the natural tendency to focus in a way that is directive and intentional.
Here’s the deal:
When you focus your attention on a woman she becomes completely radiant, she opens to you and she becomes receptive to who you really are.
I’ve seen it dozens of times in my men’s groups – a hot seat gal comes in and the men practice the tool of attention, she beams and all because a group of men in their Self and in their bodies are giving her exquisite attention and seeing her true beauty.
It’s fucking brilliant.
The good news is there is a simple tool to whip your natural focus and attention into shape – it is a training exercise that will assist you to speak from an authentic place and place your attention on the things that will serve you best.
Check out the short video below for the exercise and get started today connecting with women in two minutes or less!
Best of luck out there, men, you are doing the good work and I’m proud of your efforts to become better.
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